TOXIC PARENTS

Hay. Back again on my blog. Hopefully you guys are not bored with my writing so far. This time I want to discuss one of the stories from my friend about how people view him.

Just say his name is Rudi. Rudi is someone who is smart and talented in academics. He's been in various Olympics, and of course he's won a lot. While at school, many of his classmates were jealous of Rudi's intelligence. I think it's something to be proud of, since not everyone can be like him.

On the other hand, he is often said to be quiet by people who are new to him. It is not uncommon for him to say that he does not want to hang out or open up to befriend other people. Though he's not unwilling to be friends, he needs more time to familiarize himself with them. Or it could be that he feels the people around him are toxic, so he thinks that he should filter out his friendship more. Having toxic friends can have a negative impact. Because it can affect our personal and mental personality. Such as the emergence of stress, doubting yourself, feeling abused, and feeling not being yourself.

Apart from the views from the circle of friends, the views from his family environment are also quite concerning. Rudi felt that he was in the presence of both toxic parents. For example, when he won a race, he never received praise from his parents. As if his parents thought it was nothing extraordinary to be proud of. He also tells stories often compared to his neighbors' children.

At one point in time, Rudi was forced to participate in competitions that were not his field. His parents said, "Budi wants to take part in this competition, you have to participate. You can't lose to him." Budi is the son of Rudi's neighbor. Rudi did not oblige his parents to obey his wishes. As a result, Rudi did not win the competition, but Budi won the first place. His parents who found out about it felt angry and blamed Rudi. Just because Rudi didn't win the competition, he was deemed talentless and an embarrassment to the family by his own parents. There Rudi felt down and very sad. She cried alone in the room and didn't want to eat for several days. He also got sick because he didn't eat and drink. He pondered and finally realized that he was in both toxic parents.

After this incident, she felt stressed every so often and wanted to end her life. But every time that thought arose, he always remembered that there was a Rudi inside him who deserved to be happy. She braced herself to survive in that family. Because there is no other way he can do but survive and continue to survive.

As his friend, I feel proud and do not believe that he can survive until now. Because what he felt was very hard for a child his age. I felt that if I was in his position, maybe I would have ended at the beginning. Honestly I learned a lot from him.

Well, that was a story from one of my friends. From what Rudi went through, I can see that there are still many parents who don't value their children. For example, we like to compare a child with someone else's child as if we are useless and embarrassing for the family. And I think it's very important to appreciate what a child has achieved. Because basically everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. We cannot equate the lack of children with the strengths of other children. Like the quote I got from one of the social media "Should we curse a fish that can't climb a tree like a monkey? Or a horse that can't dive as deep as a whale ?? How long do we continue to judge when there is a choice to appreciate."

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